Thank You Note To My Mattress

Dear mattress,

I know we’ve only known each other for a few years, but I feel like I know you really well. I always enjoy the long hours we spend together each night. When I’m gone on vacation, I dream of you…. Memory foam, comfort, and warmth. But mainly home.

Thank you for always supporting my weight, on the hard days and the good. Thank you for countless hours where all I do is push you down. Especially when the memory of my shape left a mark in one side of you so I had to move to the left.

And thank you for soaking up my tears after everything that happens. For always providing a place that I know won’t let me down.



Well, guys. This was obviously sarcastic.. but truthful if that makes sense? Anyways I hope you all enjoyed this quick, different post!

AND once again, I have some serious news to share, but I’m not really sure how to say it.. Do you guys want to hear it? Should I share? What do you think?

-Aspen AKA The Girl Who Misses Her Bed


I’m 16?!

Hey y’all! So today was my 16th birthday and I just wanted to say a quick thank you to everyone who wished me a happy birthday.

You guys are so amazing and sweet!!!

At lunch my mom brought me Chick-fil-A and then we went shopping for presents.
For dinner (Lauren came with us) we went to this really good Italian Place where you can get pizza benders (basically a calzone without sauce) that you dip into the sauce with salad and sphagetti. And it was SO SO good.

I’ll probably do a haul after my party on Saturday which I’m pretty excited for.

Overall I had a good day and can’t believe that I’m 16!!!!

(Also be on the lookout for an update post. There’s been some crazy things happening that you may know about, but I’m not quite ready to share with the blogosphere.)

I love y’all and THANKS AGAIN SO SO MUCH!!!!

-Aspen AKA The Girl Who Is ACTUALLY 16 Now 🙂

Product Review- The Wet Brush

Hey y’all! So my birthday is tomorrow. We’ll technically in an hour and a half since it’s 10:30 pm right now. (Also quick shout out to Liss whose birthday is tomorrow too)  I celebrated with my mom’s family this past weekend and one of the things my grandma got me was this wet brush.


I’ve seen a lot of YouTubers praising the product so I was excited to try it and I did about 5 minutes ago.

And it’s like freaking MAGIC. I have really long, thick hair that seems to love tangles. And brushing it when it’s wet is a nightmare.
But this brushed through it in a matter of seconds and I’m honestly amazed.

They’re fairly cheap online and in various stores (I’m not sure where mine is from)

It also works really well with dry hair. So if you’re looking for a new brush or are just interested in one like this, I highly suggest it!

Now I’m going to head to bed, I have a thing against staying up til midnight on my birthday, I like to wake up the next morning.

Love y’all!- Aspen AKA The Girl Who’s About To Be 16!

Refuge From The Storm

This is a summary of a talk by Patrick Kearton, from this year’s General Conference. Every 6 months the leaders of our church speak about various topics so instead of going to church we we either watch it on TV, or go to the Conference Center.  If you want to check out the other talks then click here!

And onto the summary:

“As members of the Church, as a people, we don’t have to look back far in our history to reflect on times when we were refugees. …

The Savior knows how it feels to be a refugee—He was one. As a child, Jesus and His family fled to Egypt to escape the murderous swords of Herod. And at various points in His ministry, He found Himself threatened and His life in danger, ultimately submitting to the designs of evil men who had plotted His death. Perhaps, then, it is all the more remarkable to us that He repeatedly taught us to love one another, to love as He loves, to love our neighbor as ourselves. …

If you are asking, “What can I do?” let us first remember that we should not serve at the expense of families and other responsibilities, nor should we expect our leaders to organize projects for us. But as youth, men, women, and families, we can join in this great humanitarian endeavor. …

The Lord has instructed us that the stakes of Zion are to be “a defense” and “a refuge from the storm” [D&C 115:6]. We have found refuge. Let us come out from our safe places and share with them, from our abundance, hope for a brighter future, faith in God and in our fellowman, and love that sees beyond cultural and ideological differences to the glorious truth that we are all children of our Father in Heaven.”

I just want to say how thankful I am for a living prophet on this Earth and for the modern revelation he and his counselors are able to give.

I love you all-Aspen AKA A Member Of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

You’re Raising Your Child Wrong

As the oldest of 13 cousins, I was learning how to change a diaper by age 2, got my title as the family “baby hog” at age 7, and became a permanent babysitter at 11. Since then, I’ve been a princess, tickle monster, pegasus, jungle gym, storyteller, and superhero. Well, at least to them.
I asked them all what they wanted to be when they grew up, and they said things like football player, veterinarian, chef, dance teacher, dental hygienist, and mom.
But which of these jobs, would you deem acceptable or realistic? The ones that make good money? The ones that “most” people can get into? Or the ones that make you happy?
As we get older, our imaginations get stashed into a cupboard no one talks about anymore. However, the ideas and dreams for our future stick with us. But they’re too unrealistic, parents are pushing children to get more “realistic” jobs. So how does a parent pushing their kid to get a “more successful” job actually affect the child? New research shows that your parents have a lot more to do with your career choice than you’d think. The research indicates that the way a child turns out can be determined in large part by the day-to-day decisions made by the parents who guide that child’s growth in four complex and dynamic ways.
Parents introduce children to certain trajectories based on either their or what seems to be their child’s preferences such as enrolling them in art or violin lessons. 
Parents give positive trajectories such as materials to study, or time to do the certain activity. This is essentially sustaining the child’s progress through praise and encouragement.
Parents may also help steer their children away from certain areas. This changes how the child perceives a certain event or career.
And finally, parents react child- initiated trajectories.
“Trajectories are useful images for thinking about career development because one can easily visualize concepts like “detours,” “roadblocks” and “off-ramps,” says George Holden, a psychologist at Southern Methodist University who conducted the research.
Detours, he says, are transitional events that can redirect a pathway, such as divorce. Roadblocks are events or behavior that shut down a potential trajectory, such as teen pregnancy, which can block an educational path. Off-ramps are exits from a positive trajectory, such as abusing drugs, getting bullied or joining a gang.
Holden says there are other ways parents influence a child’s progress on a trajectory, such as through modeling desired behaviors, or modifying the speed of development by controlling the type and number of experiences.
Some of the ways in which children react to trajectories include accepting, negotiating, resisting or rejecting them, he says. Here we see that the effect parents have on their children is quite large. And I’m not saying that all of these things are bad, but imagine this major influence being used negatively. You see, being an author doesn’t make enough money, no one takes an artist seriously, poets are emotional and brooding, inventors are unsuccessful, and game designers sit alone in their parents basements. But these are all stereotypes of worrying parents who just want their children to be successful. And that’s the problem, children aren’t being raised to create the future, they’re being raised to make money. Our society has turned into an unending cycle of making and spending money, but also requires that you have the same job for nearly your entire life. I refuse to spend my life, my adult life, doing something I don’t like because someone told me my dream wasn’t going to happen. Teenagers are given the responsibility of an adult, but not the freedom. These restrictions force teens to work towards providing for themselves without being able to make all of the choices. If someone is going to put in the time and effort to complete a task, it should be for something they are interested in. You say our dreams are unrealistic? I say, good. If making my own decisions and working hard to make it in a career I’m passionate about is unrealistic, then I want to be unrealistic. These jobs aren’t unrealistic, the real world isn’t good enough.

So, this is the real world. Creativity is a thing of the past, and imagination is only for children. Right? Wrong. Even “realistic” jobs use creativity such as lawyers and doctors. Creativity and imagination are proven to make you happier, more alert, to help people cope with difficulties, and to make them feel more secure. Creativity doesn’t just mean art, it’s also being able to solve problems others might miss. This could be crucial when it comes to preventing an innocent person from spending their life in prison, or a loved man or women living in pain or dying. The “real world” needs these skills. In a ten-year national study by Shirley Brice Heath of Stanford University, it was discovered that young people who are involved in highly effective non-school arts-based community programs in under-resourced communities, in comparison with a national sample of students were:
Four times more likely to win an academic award, such as being on the honor roll.
Eight times more likely to receive a community service award.
Three times more likely to win a school attendance award.
Four times more likely to participate in a math or science fair.
Likely to score higher on their SAT college admission test scores if they have been involved for more than four years of after-school arts study.
However, the positive effects of imagination hit before any of these career choices are made; the teenage years. Teens  raised in an “imaginatively fulfilling” environment are shown to read and write better. Teens who haven’t had enough time to grow creatively, began showing signs of crucial social-emotional and cognitive problems.  These problems are distinct as they lead to problems throughout your entire adult life.
Using fMRI scans, researchers like V. S. Ramachandran, director of the Center for Brain and Cognition at the University of California, San Diego, have found that the same cells in the brain light up whether we perform an action ourselves or watch someone else do it But these “mirror neurons” aren’t activated just by the things we see. The effect also occurs when we simply imagine ourselves performing the action. Imagination can retrain and reshape our brains to cause growth and strength in many areas. It also increases feelings such as compassion and empathy. The lack of these emotions and abilities due to not being raised with imagination is a act of pure ignorance. If we have the ability to not only solve these problems, but to also create these advantages there is no reason that imagination should ever be considered unimportant.

Now it’s your turn to make sure that children are given the opportunity to become themselves. These kids have the potential to do things you can’t even imagine, and by suppressing their creativity and imagination we might not ever get to see that dream become reality.  There are actually quite a few very simple ways to include imagination in a child’s daily life.
When you read to  children, be dramatic. Act out stories with props and costumes. Encourage them to create their own stories to act out for you.
Save old Halloween costumes for dress-up fun. Add to the collection with clothing you no longer need: hats, scarves, purses, shoes, and items you can find inexpensively at garage sales or thrift shops.
Put together an “art studio” in your home. Stock it with a variety of tools and materials: crayons, markers, finger paints, scissors,  watercolors, brushes, glues, papers of various sizes and textures,  leftovers from your own home improvement,  and boxes and containers of all sizes.
Expand your musical variation at home and in the car. Listen to something you normally don’t so that you and the children can hear something different.  This can be easily expanded by turning to different radio stations and by checking out CDs from the public library — all for free!
While the music is playing at home, dance together. Teach your children traditional dances you know or improvise with them. Body movement is fun and good exercise.
Sing together. Teach the kids your favorite songs. Many of them allow for verses that can be made up, which can have an endless and hilarious number of rhymes added to it.
Look for arts programs after school, on weekends, and during vacations. Many community park and recreation centers offer these. Summer camps based on the arts are a good departure from the typical competitive sports camps.
Create a scrapbook together. Put photos, memorabilia, drawings, and captions together creatively. In doing so, you will not only have a shared experience but a memory that will last for many years
And many, many more. There are so many easy ways to give your child the intellectual and emotional foundation they need. Other important things to think about is that some children may be drawn to different things than their friends and siblings. That is completely fine, the point of imagination is to let the children learn as they want to. As toddlers and children do these things, you’ll start to notice how they are looking to find their own solutions. This is only the basis of what imagination can do. It starts at running a pretend stuffed animal farm, to constructing a city run on natural resources. Or reading silly stories to their siblings leading to writing a book that inspires people to fight for change. Albert Einstein said,  “If you want your children to be brilliant, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more brilliant, read them more fairy tales.”
And you, yes you. This is your job too. To maybe fight back a little, because maybe you’re right. Or maybe they are, who knows?! Make a stupid decision every once in awhile, I’m pretty sure it’s the only reason I’m still alive or at least partially sane. Imagination is what keeps our minds alive. Make your dream world, the real world.

Hey y’all! So this is my speech for debate (it’s called an oratory) and I know it’s long, but it has to be 10 freaking minutes memorized! If you got through it (Congratulations!) Let me know your thoughts and opinions below.
Love y’all- Aspen AKA The Girl Skipping First Period Today Because Her Speech Isn’t Memorized xD

How To: Survive A Day Of School [Told By A Baby Elephant Rights Activist]

Hey y’all! So I know it’s taken me forever to get this post up, but it’s finally here! Make sure to follow, like, and comment I love getting to know all of you!

And here we go:

Object 1: Food

The first part of this is to bring some sort of breakfast if you don’t eat in the morning. I grab things like yogurt and breakfast bars, muffins, etc.

The second part, is snacks. Snacks are essential, and I can’t stress that enough. Goldfish are my personal favorite, but anything works. Just keep them in Ziploc baggies in your backpack, and you’re good to go!

Object 2: Headphones

This one isn’t as necessary, but in classes where it’s allowed I love jamming out while doing my work. *Cough* debate *Cough*

Object 3: Phone Charger

Somehow, my phone always loses charge during the day. I plug it in during our TA period and whatever other classes I sit by an outlet in.

Object 4: Gum

I love, love, love, having gum at school. You just can’t really tell anyone that you have it xD Greedy suckers always asking for my last piece 😉

Object 5: Cell phone

Okay, so as much as I love talking to my friends during class, I use my phone to look things up, check my grades, and ask about assignments.

These are a few tips:

1. If you have certain classes on different days (My school has A & B days) then only take your stuff for one day to save your back.

2. Always keep a easily accessed pocket filled with a pen(s) and or pencils.

3. If you’re absent get those assignments ASAP.

4. If you can’t figure out something then look other places.
Does the teacher have a website?
Do you have friends who take that class?
Can you find the answer online?

5. Realize that you have questions NO ONE can answer. And that all the things you’ve been learning are almost completely useless.

6. And then cry, just like you did last week when you had the same realization.

7. Then have the other identical realization that you have to just get over yourself because it’s only three years.

8. Then cry because it’s only three years and your not ready to grow up yet. College sounds exciting, but a day job? Not so much. *Shivers*.

9. And finally, once someone notices that your having a quarter-life crisis make up some stupid excuse as to why you were crying.

10. Smile crazily at this poor person you previously gave the excuse to because apparently the fact that parent elephants can’t pay for their  baby elephants to go to the doctor because they fell off of their unicycles isn’t sad.

Hahaha hah well I hope you liked this. The first part is serious btw, but I like how the second part ended.

Love y’all-Aspen AKA Baby Elephant Rights Activist 😉



April 3

Hey y’all! So this is the post of April birthdays that I have gotten! In my opinion, April is the best month to have a birthday since the weather is generally nice, but it’s still during the school year so you can celebrate and all of that. Although I may be a little biased since my birthday’s in April…. xD

Here are some random facts about April Birthdays: 

  • From March 21-April 20 are Aries
  • From April 21-May 20 are Taurus
  • The birthstone for April is the diamond
  • The flower is the Sweet Pea and the Daisy

Now onto the birthdays!

On the 2nd day of April is Infinit Magic’s Birthday!! She will be turning 11 which is my lucky (and favorite) number. Her family is going through some hard things right now and I can’t believe how strong she has been. We’ve become pretty good friends (if I do say so myself) and want to wish you an amazing day!!

On the 7th day of April is Colby’s  Birthday!! She will be turning 16 and already got a new car yesterday which is super cool. She was actually my first follower and I love her tons! Hope you have an awesome birthday Cobalt 😉

Also on the 7th day of April is Tara’s Birthday!! She is such a sweet blogger and I love love having her in the community!! Have an awesome blossom day!

On the 11th day of April is MY birthday! I will also be turning 16 and I’m pretty excited. I can’t believe I’ve grown up this fast! And even if it sounds odd… Happy Birthday to me! xD

ALSO on the 11th day of April is Liss’s Birthday!! (Which is the best day EVER… *cough*) She is super amazing and I’ve loved getting to know her more, especially now that I can tell the difference between their writing! Love you and have an awesome day!!

On the 27th day of April is my blogging twin AKA Liv’s Birthday! She is going to be turning 16 TOO XD Dang I love this girl so much, she is such an amazing funny person. I hope you have an amazing day, and don’t get too sad 😉 At least growing up isn’t that bad, yet 🙂

Also, on the 27th of April is Hanna’s Birthday! She didn’t want to disclose her age though 🙂 I don’t know much about her, but after checking our her blog she seems really cool. I do hope she keeps blogging!

And then on the 29th of April is GeorgieGirl’s Birthday! She didn’t want to disclose her age either 🙂 Your blog is really fun and professional, I hope you have an awesome day celebrating another year of existence!

Okay, so the thing I think I’m going to do for the birthdays is have all of you comment down below something (s) about one or more people whose birthday it is. I will create a quick little post about celebrating their birthday and then copy and paste the comments about them onto it, and then have them post it on their blogs!

What do y’all think?

ALSO if your birthday is in April and you have NOT commented yet, then please do now so I can add you to the list!

Go comment about these beautiful aging people! Now, shoo!

Love y’all-Aspen AKA The Girl Who Can’t Believe She’s Going To Be Sixteen